问题好文艺，是按字面意思理解吗？
你的问题让我想起了荷马史诗里阿喀琉斯与他母亲的对话。背景是阿喀琉斯必须在安逸的生活或参战死去中作出选择。通常我们会选择安逸的生活吧？但他母亲是这么说的:"If you stay in Larisa, you will find peace. You will find a wonderful woman. You will have sons and daughters and they will have children. And they will love you. When you are gone they will remember you. But when your children are dead, and their children after them...Your name will be lost. If you go to Troy, glory will be yours. They will write stories about your victories for thousands of years. They world will remember your name. But if you go to Troy, You will never come home. For your glory works hand in hand with your doom. And I shall never see you again."大意是如果你选择安逸的生活，你会生活的很愉快。当你死后，你的孩子会记得你，你的孙子会记得你，但当你孙子也不在了，就没人记得你了。如果你选择了战争，你将一去不回，但是光荣会属于你，你的名字会流芳百世。
虽然这个故事跟我们现在不太切合，想要做到流芳百世也很困难。但我想说，我觉得人们是否在你不在以后还记得你取决于你现在所做的选择。这个选择不是说二选一的选择啊，是你在面对身边人时该做些什么。毕竟单方面要求纯洁的感情是很困难的。
