中文原文:智商是一个人的值数,对后天的学习固然重要。但是情商——因对社会压力、变迁所能承受的值数和动手能力,却对后天的发展有着更为重要的作用。
智商高并不代表情商高,甚至有时一些天才儿童智商很高,但由于父母溺爱等种种原因,他们的情商比同龄人还要低。有一个14岁的学生在家自学,他自己也考上了中国科技大学,但由于平时在家不干家务,连衣服也不会洗,无法离开家庭在外生活、学习,最后只好退学。你这样的孩子,智商再高,又有什么用呢?
许多的家庭重视培养孩子的文化、智力,天天送去这个那个补习班,他们从不让孩子干一点事情。还有一些父母因为孩子是独生子女,特别溺爱,也不让他们干家务。导致孩子很大,生活仍不能自理。相比于日本和瑞士,有很大的差别。在日本,孩子刚满一岁时,母亲便会把他们放在雪地里,让他们自己滚、爬,直到学会走路,他们知道:只有在恶劣的环境下,才能锻炼其意志,培养吃苦精神。在瑞士,从一岁起,父母即使看到孩子摔倒,他们似乎也无动于衷;如果孩子很久不肯站起来,他们也只会鼓励孩子,而不会动手拉他们。他们知道只有自己站起来,不用别人的帮助,才能在面临下一次挫折时能再一次勇敢地站起来。
挫折是一把双刃剑,使用好了就如一把利剑,使用得不好会把自己弄伤。而其关键在于本身的情商,情商不仅仅是一个值,还是一个人面对压力的精神状态。一些智商高而情商低的人,在今后发展会很困难,甚至连挫折都无法面对。报纸上也写了一个成绩很好的高三女生,因为考不上重点大学,而跳楼自杀了。这个活生生的例子给人多大的教训!在现实生活中,这种例子并不鲜见。他们都是因为情商不高,对挫折的承受能力不强而导致的。这又引发了我们深沉的思考:情商重要还是智商重要?我认为答案十分明确:情商比智商重要。
译文:
IQ is a person's value, is important to the learning of the day after tomorrow. But emotional quotient, which is a more important role in the development of the day after tomorrow, because of the number of values and practical ability of the social pressure and change.
High IQ does not mean that EQ is high, and even some gifted children's IQ is very high, but due to the parents spoiled and other reasons, their emotional intelligence than their peers. There is a 14 year old student self-study at home, he was admitted to the University of science and technology of China, but due to the usually at home do not do housework, even clothes won't wash, cannot leave the family in life, learning, and finally had to leave school. What is the use of your child with a higher IQ and higher IQ?
Many families pay more attention to the cultivation of children's culture, intelligence, every day to send this to the tutorial class, they never let the child do a little thing. There are some parents because the child is the only child, particularly fond of, nor let them do the housework. Cause the child is very big, life still can not take care of themselves. Compared to Japan and Switzerland, there is a big difference. In Japan, children just over a year old, the mother will be put them in the snow, let them rolling, crawling, until learn to walk, they know: only in the harsh environment to exercise their will, cultivate the spirit of bearing hardships. In Switzerland, from old, parents even to see the child fell, they also seems unconcerned; if child for a long time refused to stand up, they will only encourage children and cannot begin to pull them. They know that only when they stand up, without the help of others, in the face of the next setback can once again bravely stand up.
Frustration is a double-edged sword, good use as a sword, used will not hurt yourself. And the key lies in their own emotional intelligence, EQ is not just a value, or a person in the face of the pressure of the state of mind. Some people with high IQ and low EQ, in the future development will be very difficult, and even can not face setbacks. The newspaper also wrote a very good grades of high school students, because the test is not the focus of the University, and jumped to commit suicide. This living example gives a lesson to a man! In real life, this case is not uncommon. They are because of the low emotional intelligence, the ability to withstand setbacks caused by not strong. This has led us to the deep thinking: EQ is important or important IQ? I think the answer is clear: EQ is more important than iq.