真爱,零期待
I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:
我曾有个朋友,我们的关系很亲密。有一次我们坐在游泳池边上,她载手掌里盛了点儿水,捧在我面前,说:
You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love. As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… They try to posses it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spillin out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you.
你仔细看我手上这水了吗?那代表爱。只要你充满关爱地弯曲着你的手指,并允许它保持在那儿,它会永远在那儿。但是,如果你试图把你的手指在它周围合起并试图占有它,它会通过它找到的缝溢出去。这是人们当他们遇到爱时犯的最大的错误…他们试图占有它,他们要求,他们期待,那样就像溢出你的手掌的水一样,爱会从你身边撤退。
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.
因为爱意味着自由随意,你不能改变它的本性。
If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feelno expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
如果你有爱的人,允许他们自由随意的存在。给予而不指望;建议而不命令;请求而不要求;可能听起来简单,但这需要一辈子去实践。这就是真爱的秘诀。真正去实践它,你必须对那些你爱的人没有期望,并给予无条件的关爱。
我们正在起跑点
“We are reading the first verse of the first chapter of a book whose pages are infinite…”
I do not know who wrote those words, but I have always liked them as a reminder that the future can be anything we want to make it. We can take the mysterious, hazy future and carve out of it anything that we can imagine, just like a sculptor carves a statue from a shapeless stone.
We are all in the position of the farmer. If we plant a good seed, we reap a good harvest. If our seed is poor and full of weeds, we reap a useless crop. If we plant nothing at all, we harvest nothing at all.
I want the future to be better than the past. I don’t want it contaminated by the mistakes and errors with which history is filled. We should all be concerned about the future because that is where we will spend the reminder of our lives.
The past is gone and static. Nothing we can do will change it. The future is before us and dynamic. Everything we do will effect it. Each day will brings with it new frontiers, in our homes and in our businesses, if we will only recognize them. We are just at the beginning of the progress in every field of human endeavor.
“我们正在阅读一本页数无限的书的第一章的第一节……。”
我不知道这段文字是谁写的,我一直很喜欢并用它们来提醒自己,那就是未来操之在我。我们可以掌握神秘而不可知的未来,从中创出我们所能想象的任何东西,一如雕刻家可以将未成型的石头刻出雕像一样。
我们每个人都是农夫。我们若种下好种子,就会有丰收。倘若种子长的不良且长满杂草,我们就会徒劳无获。如果我们什么也不种,就根本不会有什么收获。
我希望未来会比过去更好。我不希望未来会被那些充斥在历史中的错误所污染。我们应关心未来,因为往后的余生都要在未来中度过。
往昔已一去不复返而且是静止的。任凭我们怎么努力都不能改变过去。未来就在我们眼前而且是动态的。
我们的所作所为都会影响未来。只要我们体会的出来,每天都可以发现新的知识领域伴随而生,可能是在家里,也可能是在我们的事业中。我们正处在人类所努力钻研的每个领域中进步的起点。