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中国文化和美国家庭是不同的.重视对子女的教育是中国文化的特质,为了子女成龙成凤,中国父母会不惜牺牲一切,这是
其它西方国家的父母望尘莫及的.然而也正是因为这个原因,中国父母喜欢主导子女的一生,总认为子女不争气就是父母的失败；而子女若能成材则是父母最大的荣
耀.基于这份患得患失的忧心和企图,使得中国父母普遍对孩子过份保护、限制太多,并且强加其个人价值观于子女身上者屡见不鲜.
中国父母试图用“牺
牲”的想法及作法来减少孩子在生存竞争上的挑战,希望孩子在低挑战的环境下,创造高成就,其实,这是不可能的事情,因为生存的能力是靠磨练出来的,光从书
本上是很难学到的.中国父母常对孩子说：“你只要好好念书就好了,其他都别管了!”这种作法不但对孩子没有任何好处,更是严重地剥夺了他们学习生存及养成
独立人格的成长机会,更将因此扭曲了孩子的一生.
美国的家庭教育崇尚民主.父母和孩子共同制定能维护各方面权益的规范.孩子在制定家规时与父母具
有均等的权利.父母们常能宽容孩子们的顽皮.淘气.不太注意小节.他们的教育方式是开放的.美国的家庭教育的民主气氛造就了一代一代独立性极强的美国青
年.但有时极端的民主也使美国不少家庭的教育过于放任.造成不少孩子以自我为中心.盛气凌人.行为顽劣.
美国的父母从小注意帮助孩子树产明确的经济观念和经济独立的意识.父母们教导孩子怎样有计划地消费有限的零用钱.如何想办法去赚钱.美国青年的经济独立意识较早.正是基于这种早期的经济观念的教育.在美国.父母们常用经济手段来促使孩子学习进步及刺激子女间的学习竞争.
Emphasis
on children's education is the characteristics of Chinese culture to
their children Jackie Chan Cheng-feng,Chinese parents will be willing to
sacrifice everything,it is the parents of other Western countries can
not.Yet it is precisely because of this reason,the leading Chinese
parents prefer their children's life,and believe that children do not
live up to expectations is the failure of the parents; and their
children if parents become useful is the greatest glory.Based on this
concern and worry about the outcome of an attempt to make the children
of Chinese parents are generally over-protective,too restrictive and
impose their personal values in their children are not uncommon.
Chinese
parents attempt to "sacrifice" of ideas and practices to reduce their
children survive the challenges of competition,hope the children in
low-challenging environment,the creation of high achievement,in
fact,this is impossible,because the ability to survive is by grinding
training out of the light from the books is very difficult to
learn.Chinese parents often tell their children,said:"You only have to
study hard like the rest have not worry!" This approach not only no good
for children,it is seriously deprived of their learning and develop
independent living opportunities for personal growth,More will therefore
distort the child's life.
American democracy advocate of family
education.Parents and children can maintain all aspects of common
interest to develop the specification.Children in developing family
rules with the parents have equal rights.Parents are often able to
forgive naughty children.Naughty.Do not pay attention to section.They of
education is open.the United States created an atmosphere of family
education,democracy,independence of the strong generation of young
Americans.but sometimes extreme democracy education in the United States
are too many families neglect.cause a lot of self-centered child
.domineering.unruly behavior.
American parents to help children pay
attention to the tree produced small clear economic concepts and sense
of economic independence.Parents teach their children how to have
planned to consume the limited pocket money.How to find a way to make
money.American youth's sense of economic independence earlier.It is
Based on this concept of early education,the economy.In the United
States.parents used economic means to encourage and stimulate progress
in children learn to study competition between children.
